Let’s be real, negative thinking is going to catch us all right?! To get annoyed, frustrated or sad about this may only cause further blocks, or even worse to push them down and pretend they aren’t there - as we cannot fool the Universe! Our vibration will shift as negativity creeps in, so the trick is to re-learn how we navigate those feelings in order to get into good habits in regards to responding to difficult emotions. Notice that no emotion is negative, they are all valid. But how we deal with them can have an impact on our self worth, self esteem, and ablity to manifest what we want. Negative thinking can also be detrimental to our mental well-being and overall quality of life. So, here are a couple of tips about how to manage those moments of negativity:
Acknowledge it, don’t bury it:pay attention to the patterns of negative thinking, and the impact they have on your emotions and behavior. Try not to deny yourself completely the space to feel low or pessimistic at times. It is absolutely natural to have these moments, so give yourself permission to feel whatever you need to feel - we do not promote toxic positivity, and it is important to not bury emotions. We all go through plenty of lows in our lives, and it is only right that we have the chance to work through that at our own pace without the added guilt or pressure to be positive. However there is a time when that can be turned around, and only you can be the person to do that for yourself.
Don’t feed the gremlin: the worst thing to do with a negative thought is feed it, and give it more opportunity to grow. Once you have acknowledged your emotion, even if it is an uncomfortable one, try to be curious as to why it has appeared. Investigate it and ask it why it is here, understand it, and then decide how best to move on from this in a way that is best for you. Challenge their validity and ask yourself if there is evidence to support these thoughts, or if they are based on assumptions or biases. Often negative thoughts are distorted and not based on reality. The last thing you want to do is fall into a cycle of self pity or disempowerment, and think that you don't have the ability to be anything but your difficult emotions. This is simply not true - these are things that happen to you, they aren't all of who you are.
Breathe: taking a moment to just breathe can be all the solution that's needed. If you experience quite quick flashes of anger, frustration or sadness try to take a few mindful moments to just breathe and concentrate on your breath, which will help you to stay calm and present.
Check for five things: if you’re becoming overwhelmed, take a moment to notice five things in your space that you like the look of - notice if you can hear anything, smell anything, feel anything, and engage with all your senses to help you be present and grounded.
Gratitude: getting into good gratitude habits will really support you in times of feeling fed up. Thinking through a "doom and gloom" lens can be a difficult energy to work through, but if you are well versed in knowing how to practice gratitude you will be in a better position to be able to counteract these thoughts with remembering what is also good in your life and what you appreciate. Regularly reflect on the positive aspects, even the small ones, and express gratitude for them. This can help shift your perspective and bring more positivity into your thinking.
Place a hand on your Heart centre: Touching base with your Heart centre can often bring a sense of peace when it is most needed. Spend some time just placing your hands on your heart, or in prayer position in front of the heart centre, to align your energy back to love.
Do a burning bowl ritual: write down all your frustrations or worries and set it alight, making sure to place it in a flame proof container to burn. Once it is ash take it somewhere windy or to flowing water, and throw it so it goes away from you. You can even let out a scream or shout as you do so if you wish!
Reframe the negative thoughts: replace negative thoughts with more positive and realistic ones. Find alternative explanations or perspectives that are more balanced and constructive. For example, instead of thinking "I'm a failure," reframe it as "I made a mistake, but I can learn from it and improve."
Practice self-compassion: treat yourself with kindness and understanding. Acknowledge that everyone makes mistakes and experiences setbacks. Avoid harsh self-judgment, and replace it with self-compassion and self-acceptance.
Surround yourself with positivity: surround yourself with supportive and positive influences, spending time with those who uplift you or engaging in activities that bring you joy and fulfillment. It can be more difficult to remove yourself from a negative mindset if you aren't supported, or if you're surrounded by negative people and environments.
Practice mindfulness: engage in mindfulness exercises to increase your awareness of the present moment. This can help you detach from negative thoughts and observe them without judgment. Techniques like meditation, deep breathing, or Yoga can help cultivate mindfulness.
Seek support: reach out to trusted friends, family members, or professionals - such as therapists, coaches or counselors - if negative thinking becomes overwhelming or persistent. They can provide guidance and support to help you work through them.